ANGER DOES NOT SOLVE PROBLEM

Control yo Anger. .

*Whenever anger comes up, take out a mirror and look at yourself. When you are angry, you are not very beautiful.
*Whate'ers begun in anger ends in shame.
* Anger means lost business, because it destroys relationships.
* Anger also means losing business that you could have won in a more gracious mood.
* Anger leads to increased stress (ironic, since stress often increases anger).

 
The main rule is to exercise self discipline. Don't hit anything or anyone this could lead to legal issues and harm others. Go take a walk, do jumping jacks to calm your self. Take deep breaths. Find something relaxing.
Try to think before you speak. Sometimes angry people feel someone is lashing out at them and they retaliate. In many cases a comment may not have been aimed at you at all, so don't take everything too personal. These tips for controlling anger is the beginning of a new, positive direction at enjoying life more and others around you.

One very simple way to begin to process internal simmering anger is to keep a daily journal. This journal is your special private place to record your thoughts and feelings. Keep it with you at all times and be on the look out for anything that makes you feel irritable, frustrated, or annoyed. As soon as you feel those emotions arising within you note them down.

Make a note of where you are, write down how you feel and write about what you think prompted your feelings. In a very short time you will notice that you develop a natural conscious awareness of what irritates you; and that awareness will bring issues to the surface where you can deal with them rather than leave them simmering inside.

The idea behind writing down your thoughts and feelings is not to increase you sense of frustration or injustice, but to externalize what’s been lurking beneath the surface so that it can be heard and then resolved. Until we know what we feel, we can’t get to the process of dealing with it.

• Externalise. Find a name for an anger experience and realise it is just a pattern match - a strong emotion which floods your rational decision centres.
• Be less surprised and shocked by the antics of others – understand instead.
• Notice the triggers along the road to losing it. Learn to turn back and away from that line before it is too late.
• Notice the exceptions and how you managed them.